I was wondering if you would help me with a idea. Let me try to explain. I know you take pride in your problem solving ability….I started reading sociology and psychology books for more understanding of human nature. I was reading a paragraph about how senses trigger memory and there was this side note about a woman who got car sick when she was a kid.
Her mom would give her a handkerchief with perfume on it to hopefully distract her from being sick. The side note went on to say that every time the now grown woman smelled certain perfumes she got sick.
Damn it would be great to “condition” a women to want to have sex really bad when she smelled tasted seen or heard something.
So how do you do this (I hope I’m not barking up the wrong tree with this idea).
I can’t come up with any idea’s for executing some thing like this. Tell me what you think.. Is this why you should make a woman feel good about her self after sex. Damn I thought sex was a reward. LOL
First of all, you are correct.
In most relationships, the man and woman naturally (without trying) condition each other to crave sex in a variety of ways.
Any sort of sensory trigger (visual, touch, smell, sound, etc.) can activate sexual arousal, but that’s only “part” of the formula that gets her to desire sex.
The same applies to men.
For example, let’s say a guy is at a social gathering. And while he’s attempting to find the bathroom, he accidently walks into a room where there are two naked women kissing and apparently getting ready to have sex.
And let’s just say, one of them walks towards him and grabs his hand and whispers, “would you please join us”.
We all know that there would be a large percentage of guys who would strip down naked and join in without thinking.
However, there’s a large percentage of guys would tell them no (even the he’s “technically” sexually aroused).
Many guys would decline for a variety of reasons (because on a basic level, they know that there’s a chance that something bad could result during or after sex).
One guy might decline because he’s loyal. And he would feel bad cheating on his lady.
One guy might decline because he thinks there’s a strong chance that one of them has an STD.
One guy might decline because he thinks it’s a set up (i.e. a prank, a robbery tactic, etc.)
One guy might decline because he’s not that experienced and wouldn’t want to embarrass himself.
The point is, all of these guys could have been “sexually aroused” based on multiple ”sensory-based conditioning” happening at the same time.
And yet they still said ‘no’.
In other words…
1. The “smell” (aroma) of being near two sexually aroused naked women.
2. The “sight” of seeing two naked beautiful women who are kissing and being naughty.
3. The “touch” of a woman’s soft hand on his hand.
4. The “sound” of hearing their sexy voices asking him to join in.
But the point is….just because the “arousal triggers” were effective, it doesn’t mean it’s enough.
As far as making a woman feel good after sex, that’s one of those natural things that a loving guy will do that ends up benefiting him in the future (in terms of conditioning).
So if at some point in the future, she ends up being “effectively triggered” (via fantasizing about sex or watching a movie where a couple made love very passionately or via smelling a “sexy handkerchief”) she’s going to decide to have sex because of two factors: (1) The conditioning + (2) She knows nothing bad is going to happen. (He’s not a stranger. She knows he doesn’t have an STD. She knows he’s not going to harm her physically afterwards. Etc.)
And even better than that, she “expects” to experience even more pleasure AFTER sex in the form of cuddling and feeling loved.
On the other hand (and this is common), if a woman is in a relationship with a guy and typically during sex and/or after sex, he conditions her to feel bad in some way, then it will affect her “decisions” in the future…
** Some guys establish a pattern of pressuring the woman to “do stuff” during sex that she doesn’t want to do.
** Some guys establish a pattern of pressuring her to “go again” when she doesn’t have any more energy.
** Some guys establish a pattern of turning on the TV (sports) immediately afterwards, instead of cuddling.
** Some guys establish a pattern of treating her like a porn star during times when she’s craving intimacy, connection, eye contact, smiles, etc.
** Some guys establish a pattern of not mixing it up.
And depending on the woman (her emotion needs, her need for variety, her expectations, her preferences) when she “imagines the idea of having sex with the guy” it is LINKED with negative emotions such as:
** Feeling like she’s a sexual failure
** Feeling guilty (as if she’s not good enough in bed)
** Feeling used (and object of his pleasure)
** Feeling bored and misunderstand
Whether it’s true or not… based on his pattern (or her perception of what will happen during or after sex), she could (in a logical way) end up being REPULSED by sex… even if she’s sexually aroused…. even if the sex is normally pretty good.
If every time you had sex with a woman, your experienced an extreme amount of pain in your penis for an hour, you might decline having sex with her in the future, even if the “sex part” was amazing.
Some people (including many experts) actually believe (or they try to get you to believe) that giving a woman a great sexual experience (or a certain type of orgasm) will make her addicted to sex.
It doesn’t work that way.
In the real world (reality)(planet earth) a guy could give a woman a clitoral orgasm + a G-spot (via oral sex or penetration sex). And then the next day or a few days later, he could ask her if she wanted to do it again and there’s a strong chance she’ll say “no”.
That’s because she has to be triggered via something that works for her (whether it’s a special handkerchief, a massage, a romantic dinner, a psychological impression, strategic conversations, or a combination, etc.)
The good news is…if he cuddles her (or provides her preferred “post sex” experience)…the next time she is PROPERLY TRIGGERED, then there won’t be any resistance (or fear of something bad happening).
While we’re on the subject, in terms of properly triggering a woman, normally it’s best to focus on “psychological triggers” compared to sensory triggers.
Men tend to be more responsive to “sensory-based” triggers…(i.e. the aroma of an aroused vagina, the sight of a woman in lingerie, being touched the right way, etc.).
Women tend to be more responsive to “psychological-emotional triggers” (i.e. having make up sex, romantic themes, “new combinations of emotions”, “unfamiliar psychological triggers”.)
For example, a friend of mine (he’s kinda nerdy) met this super hot woman years ago.
He showed me her photos on his cell phone.
She was kind like his business partner. (He started out editing her short stories. And then they eventually started writing novels together and going to writing conferences.)
Then he told me stories of the wild sexual adventures.
(In fact, I mentioned him on the page: http://SuperPowerMedia.com/subvoid-discount.html)
At any rate, he gave her “the tingles” and triggered sexual arousal via a “psychological-emotional trigger” (NOT sensory). That was the first part.
And more importantly, at some point he made her feel comfortable that nothing bad would happen after/during. That’s the second part.
He did both.
Most guys focus on one.
When it comes to conditioning a woman to want sex more often, the first goal MUST INVOLVE doing both conditional factors.
Overall Lesson: You should focus on two things at all times: (Conditional Factor #1) Providing her preferred post-sex experience (cuddling, talking, napping, kissing, etc) + (Conditional Factor #2) Triggering sexual response.
Keep in mind The Sub Void is only one way to do it.
More than likely, you’ve triggered sexual arousal before.
The main thing is don’t assume that “seeing a naked body” or “being kissed passionately” (sensory based factors) is going to trigger her arousal, just because those things work on you.
A good way to discover “brilliant” tips/ideas is to study patterns, emotional themes (romance themes), her past patterns, times when you (or a friend) did something effective, unusual psychological themes that break the rules, etc.
I hope that helps.