Interesting Questions (Issue #007)
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Al | Jan 28, 2010 | Reply
Has happened to me many times with my wife. We have talked about it and it makes sense to me what she said.
She feels disconnected to me when I am performing oral. She loves it and half the time she does not want me to stop. I think there are times when sex is more about the connection between us and there are other times that sex is more about being horny. I think her level of horniness versus connection is the key.
Al
Instructor CR James | Jan 28, 2010 | Reply
Interesting that she feels disconnected during oral…
Maybe she feels that ‘cheapens’ the love-making / connection..
Thanks for sharing…
Take care
-CR
Al | Jan 28, 2010 | Reply
Agreed….that is the way she says she has felt. Those times she is more responsive to tender touching and closer face sex. She is similar in not liking doggie because I fell “too far from her”
I think it is the same thing. I need to think about that some more about her probably wanting to be a lot closer to me in general. Hmmm…. Think I might have just hit on something. Thanks for the opportunity to think about it.
Instructor CR James | Jan 28, 2010 | Reply
Yeah the “doogie” + “connection thing” provides a lot of information…
No problem..
Malcolm | Jan 28, 2010 | Reply
Dear Mr. CR James,
How are you today, better I am believing. You are correct in your statement/response. The other situation that happen to me, in the same situation, was one young lady said “why did you stop?”
My answer was you said stop three times. She said, “no I didn’t”. A different lady said she felt see was going to pee (yes that is how some women perceive the feeling.
The out come varies with the woman, and to keep going when the woman let you get that far with her, leaves her weak yet satisfied. Your thoughts on that situation with that lady may still be good or bad (she may feel you are too good for her; you may be too much for her;or so confused she may not know what to think.
Enjoy, be happy you have someone who will let you get that far.
Sincerely,
Mr. Malcolm W. Butler II
Instructor CR James | Jan 28, 2010 | Reply
Hey Malcolm
Interesting. She never realized she told you stop.
Pete | Jan 29, 2010 | Reply
Hello James,
This is my theory: nothing. You cannot know the reason. There is always some probability, but you cannot know the reason. He could damage her, she was very comfortable with oral sex, she doesn’t like him anymore, she has an AID and she doesn’t want he get infected… there is a plethora.
If this guy is worried he’s a problem. He lacks selfcontrol and/or he’s a control maniac that want have his girlfriend controlled. That’s the problem. Anyway he has based his happiness in her. It’s a hard place to be. He should learn to be himself, not a socially conditioned himself, but a FREE one that can what he want, without hope anything from anyone, living in a simple way. Example: I see a girl I like, then I think “get the girl” and I go to talk with her. I don’t care she does, i do it because I want sex with her and do a better place to everyone (she loves sex too). If she it’s bitchy or nice, I don’t care, because I’m doing whatever I want. However if she say ‘no’ I usually say “forgive me, I’m a man”. I respect them. And if she ask what I want I say the truth: sex with her and make her happy. In the moment i start to think I’ll lose her because it’s easy think “what should I say?” “what should I do if I want bed her?”
THere is an infinite pleasure into do what you really want, without explain nothing, and being honest: you’re basing your happiness into yourself. You’re a man, you want sex and make everyone around you happy. In the same way you don’t ask a dog that miaow, you cannot ask yourself that you don’t live in aligment with who you are (btw, that’s the reality about the most of people, they’re dog learning to miaow but it’s impossible they master it).
Same way, if my girlfriend doesn’t want sex with me, I respect her, of course. But I do whatever I want. I could go out with my friends, I could pick up another girl, I could play to any video game, I could go to sleep… and if she want sex even, I’ll do the same. I don’t control her, but she cannot control me either. If I’m in lust and she doesn’t want help me I’ll bring another girl into my bed. And if she ask I’ll tell her the plain truth. Or if I don’t want to reveal something I’ll tell her that I don’t want to talk about it.
Conclusion: be yourself, be simple (and don’t think), make people happy around you and respect them.
Best regards,
-Pete
Instructor CR James | Jan 29, 2010 | Reply
i like your style man.
great example of living by your own rules and standards…
Earl | Jan 31, 2010 | Reply
Hi,
I’m probably not very qualified to give advice on this matter but just because 999,999 women in America think oral sex is fun doesn’t mean all women think it’s fun. You have to respect the wishes of the 1 in a million who don’t like it. And aren’t there dozens ways to give a woman sex these days? So why not just try another way. If you give your wife oral sex for her benefit and she doesn’t want it like that then it means she’s pretty normal I think. What’s wrong with being normal? And I’m not really saying oral sex is bad but I am saying in some parts of the world it’s considered unnatural. So if she doesn’t like that way it means you don’t have to worry yourself about it and in her eyes you’ve just earned some extra macho points. It probably means you have to find other ways to drive her crazy in bed so she will value you more. I don’t think you necessarily have to change people to get them to like you. If you bend like the spoon you might find them {eventually}also bending your way. And then you will realize it’s not the spoon that bends because the problem was never really there in the first place {I know that last part may not make any sense but you know what I mean}.