Interesting Questions (Issue #006)
Inside this issue:
- Dealing With The Fear of Rejection
- Un-planned vs. Pre-planned Strategies
- The REAL REASON why techniques work
- The REAL REASON why techniques don’t work
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The 10 Distinctions Between
Super Desirable Guys And Average Guys
Dave | Reply
I don’t have fear of rejection. I have fear of wanting to reject her! LOL
I’m so picky, I tend to presume I’m not going to be interested, & I’m too often right.
Dave
Instructor CR James | Reply
lol… that’s an interesting fear
Matt | Reply
Hey Cr.
Just wondering if your 5 spark plugs are available? I ordered Pirate Seduction, and it is loaded with excellent information man. Amazing.
However, I need to work with “value” increasing principles first, in order for them to be coherent.
Thanks,
Matt.
Instructor CR James | Reply
what’s up matt…
yeah it’s still available…
i haven’t updated the main site, but i’ve selling it
at this page:
http://superpowermedia.com/FiveSparkPlugs.html
Zack | Reply
You are exactly right about men and rejection.
. . we’re thinking there will never be sex or intimacy. Its even worse when she says ‘its not the same for me, I’ve been thru premature menopause and body changes; I no longer feel sexy; I don’t need ‘that.’
I can now see WE were are stuck in a vicious circle. When men are getting sex its easy to be giving, create trust, be caring, understanding, supportive, and all those elements a woman needs BEFORE she can feel sexual. For me those ‘elements’ flow naturally AFTER sex.
I do see progress but am still frustrated. We had one great night which resulted in tension building for another ‘date’ at her suggestion, believe it or not. The tension building was great coming into the next date, then BOOM, she was too tired, canceled out, promising ‘tomorrow nite’.
And, I kept the Anti-seductive and desparation signals under control (A MAJOR FEAT FOR ME)! The next day was easy, fun, building tension, only to be canceled again. ERRR (me losing control over signals). I am finding it hard NOT to be desperate and angry. It seems to be all about her family, her feelings, her job and I’m at the bottom of the priority list.
SHE would tell you she is low on my priority list. Its like we each blame the other and are at an impasse. Been there for years.
Any suggestions??
Instructor CR James | Reply
i’m not sure what “concepts” you’ve been practicing the most… but i’m going to suggest you switch gears and focus ALL of your energy on:
[something mentioned in Super Seduction Power] and
[something mentioned in Super Seduction Power]
that’s your 2 biggest constraints…
Zack | Reply
CR,
I have to tell you this is incredible. You understand. My guy friends don’t get it (and I doubt they have perfection).
Yep, if I criticize or show any disappointment, the whole thing goes out the window and is turned back against me. So, I agree with you, that she perceives any disappointment as my trashing of her COMPLETELY. (which is NOT so). And then the excuses/defenses flow very quickly. I call it ‘tit for tat’ and so lately when that happens, I ask her to please LISTEN and then repeat what I said. Most often, what I REALLY said was NOT heard. Interesting. It is making her slow down a bit and actually hear me out.
And yeah, I have recently been telling her she is sexy. That kinda catches her off guard, so that makes it fun. I DO remember how she used to be and want to believe ‘it’ can come back. And I also think she wants it back too but just doesn’t realize it yet.
You are totally right that showing frustration is a REALLY BAD IDEA . . . so, I hope I can soon burn it into my brain. Been there done that with the begging and anger. (About all that did was eliminate and SV or self worth I had left).
Looking forward to better days ahead.
Instructor CR James | Reply
hey zack
what’s really amazing is how far off the mark they can be…