Comments on: She Cheated With The Short Chubby Guy http://superpowermedia.com/blog/seduce-women/seduction/she-cheated-with-the-short-chubby-guy.htm ...Shares Rare Psychological Strategies For Being Desirable To Women Mon, 23 Apr 2012 14:34:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Instructor CR James http://superpowermedia.com/blog/seduce-women/seduction/she-cheated-with-the-short-chubby-guy.htm/comment-page-1#comment-6637 Instructor CR James Tue, 25 Jan 2011 17:08:25 +0000 http://superpowermedia.com/blog/archives/6#comment-6637 Cheating can take place as a result of low esteem because "how you feel" (about yourself) affects your decisions. "Once a cheater - Always a cheater" is a cliche. In reality, people make adjustments and improvements in all aspects of life. That's like saying once a drug addict always a drug addict...or "once a smoker always a smoker". That presupposes that we are incapable of making adjustments (growth) in our outlook/philosophies and how we deal with situations... When in fact, we (earthlings) are designed to adapt. Does that mean a guy SHOULD stay with the woman if she cheats? I wouldn't. Lots of guys wouldn't... However, there are couples who have patched things up post-affair and are happy. Cheating can take place as a result of low esteem because “how you feel” (about yourself) affects your decisions.

“Once a cheater – Always a cheater” is a cliche.

In reality, people make adjustments and improvements in all aspects of life.

That’s like saying once a drug addict always a drug addict…or “once a smoker always a smoker”.

That presupposes that we are incapable of making adjustments (growth) in our outlook/philosophies and how we deal with situations…

When in fact, we (earthlings) are designed to adapt.

Does that mean a guy SHOULD stay with the woman if she cheats? I wouldn’t. Lots of guys wouldn’t…

However, there are couples who have patched things up post-affair and are happy.

]]> By: married to a cheater http://superpowermedia.com/blog/seduce-women/seduction/she-cheated-with-the-short-chubby-guy.htm/comment-page-1#comment-6329 married to a cheater Wed, 15 Dec 2010 13:06:48 +0000 http://superpowermedia.com/blog/archives/6#comment-6329 Well, my wife cheated with a very tall scrawny guy so we have something in common - the cheating that is. What gets me is that I am far better looking than him but he had plenty of money I heard. Plus he pandered to her emotional whims which is what lots of women really want from a man. Looks are not as important to most women, they want to be cherished and put on a pedestal, but it's hard to do that every day in a marriage. That's why they start looking around for it. Well, my wife cheated with a very tall scrawny guy so we have something in common – the cheating that is. What gets me is that I am far better looking than him but he had plenty of money I heard. Plus he pandered to her emotional whims which is what lots of women really want from a man.

Looks are not as important to most women, they want to be cherished and put on a pedestal, but it’s hard to do that every day in a marriage. That’s why they start looking around for it.

]]> By: Dave http://superpowermedia.com/blog/seduce-women/seduction/she-cheated-with-the-short-chubby-guy.htm/comment-page-1#comment-191 Dave Sat, 20 Dec 2008 10:03:49 +0000 http://superpowermedia.com/blog/archives/6#comment-191 so, she cheats on you and *you* show even MORE love and acceptance? You are REWARDING her for whorish behavior. Men need to develop standards with these cheap women and hold the women to the standards. Divorce rates are very high these days and there is a trend among relationship therapists developing in an effort to curb the divorce rates; They are telling people that you CAN indeed 'get over' an affair! Well, you cannot! You will NEVER forget that act of ultimate betrayal. Never. A woman who cheats on you once, never loved you. love doesn't allow such betrayal. She will do it again...and again...because she doesn't value you nor your feelings. Cheating is NOT the result of 'low self-sesteem', it is the result of the narcissistic trend of today's women who have been brainwashed by radical feminists that THEIR needs are at the center of the universe, to hell with everyone else. Today's women are entitlement queens who will get their 'needs' met at any expense. Your wife has failed to see your contributions and sacrifices you have made for your family. She WILL blame YOU for her affair. In fact, the longer you remain with her the more HER affair will become about YOU who can't forget about it! You deserve MUCH better than this. Self-respecting females do not stay with men who cheat on them, it is time that men learn again to respect themselves. Asking how you can fix a marriage after an affair is like asking how you can un-break an egg. She broke the marital contract with you and you will NEVER trust her again. I've been there bro so trust me when I say that your marriage is over. You can't un-break an egg and you can't 'restore' a marriage after infidelity; the whole idea of 'marriage' rests on fidelity. You will never feel safe to love someone fully after they have cheated. Never. Go and get someone more worthy of YOU. so, she cheats on you and *you* show even MORE love and acceptance? You are REWARDING her for whorish behavior. Men need to develop standards with these cheap women and hold the women to the standards. Divorce rates are very high these days and there is a trend among relationship therapists developing in an effort to curb the divorce rates; They are telling people that you CAN indeed ‘get over’ an affair! Well, you cannot! You will NEVER forget that act of ultimate betrayal. Never. A woman who cheats on you once, never loved you. love doesn’t allow such betrayal. She will do it again…and again…because she doesn’t value you nor your feelings. Cheating is NOT the result of ‘low self-sesteem’, it is the result of the narcissistic trend of today’s women who have been brainwashed by radical feminists that THEIR needs are at the center of the universe, to hell with everyone else. Today’s women are entitlement queens who will get their ‘needs’ met at any expense. Your wife has failed to see your contributions and sacrifices you have made for your family. She WILL blame YOU for her affair. In fact, the longer you remain with her the more HER affair will become about YOU who can’t forget about it! You deserve MUCH better than this. Self-respecting females do not stay with men who cheat on them, it is time that men learn again to respect themselves. Asking how you can fix a marriage after an affair is like asking how you can un-break an egg. She broke the marital contract with you and you will NEVER trust her again. I’ve been there bro so trust me when I say that your marriage is over. You can’t un-break an egg and you can’t ‘restore’ a marriage after infidelity; the whole idea of ‘marriage’ rests on fidelity. You will never feel safe to love someone fully after they have cheated. Never. Go and get someone more worthy of YOU.

]]> By: Luigi Di Serio http://superpowermedia.com/blog/seduce-women/seduction/she-cheated-with-the-short-chubby-guy.htm/comment-page-1#comment-57 Luigi Di Serio Wed, 16 Jul 2008 19:00:47 +0000 http://superpowermedia.com/blog/archives/6#comment-57 Read this funny story... http://www.news.com.au/dailytelegraph/story/0,22049,22439156-5012895,00.html Two people were cheating on each other (cyber) with each other. This says a lot about perception and sexual triggers, fantasy, etc. Read this funny story…
http://www.news.com.au/dailytelegraph/story/0,22049,22439156-5012895,00.html

Two people were cheating on each other (cyber) with each other. This says a lot about perception and sexual triggers, fantasy, etc.

]]> By: Jon http://superpowermedia.com/blog/seduce-women/seduction/she-cheated-with-the-short-chubby-guy.htm/comment-page-1#comment-17 Jon Wed, 07 May 2008 13:30:52 +0000 http://superpowermedia.com/blog/archives/6#comment-17 My wife has low self-esteem and there is so much truth in this post. It is really difficult because if you do try to compliment her, you often times get the "loser effect" (i.e. "I know I'm not pretty, so when he tells me I am, he is either lying trying to get some, or he has really low standards - loser!") Another aspect is that since she is constantly beating herself up, she expects you to take the same shit that she is dishing out to herself. For example, she is always blaming herself, so she is quick to blame me for stupid stuff. Then, even though I don't like to place blame (I just don't see the point), if I try to defend myself by pointing out similiar things that she does, it seems like I'm the one placing the blame. The strategy that I've found works best to diffuse this cycle is remaining firm and calm. Even though she is seething with anger, don't let anger slip into your response. It's difficult because part of her "game" is to get you involved emotionally in the fight she is starting. But if you can stay above it, remain firm, respond rationally, and then demonstrate that you aren't angry about the exchange (One trick I use is to immediately switch gears and start playing happily with one of our kids)then she is allowed to question whether her anger is justified. Since you aren't angry (you didn't take the bait) you are sending a strong signal that she is being silly. I would be interested to hear from anyone with specific strategies to raise her self-esteem without triggering "the loser effect". Thanks C.R. for creating this blog. I think alot of guys could really benefit from discussing this stuff, but its not something that most guys are comfortable discussing with their friends. So the blog is the answer! My wife has low self-esteem and there is so much truth in this post. It is really difficult because if you do try to compliment her, you often times get the “loser effect” (i.e. “I know I’m not pretty, so when he tells me I am, he is either lying trying to get some, or he has really low standards – loser!”)

Another aspect is that since she is constantly beating herself up, she expects you to take the same shit that she is dishing out to herself. For example, she is always blaming herself, so she is quick to blame me for stupid stuff. Then, even though I don’t like to place blame (I just don’t see the point), if I try to defend myself by pointing out similiar things that she does, it seems like I’m the one placing the blame.

The strategy that I’ve found works best to diffuse this cycle is remaining firm and calm. Even though she is seething with anger, don’t let anger slip into your response. It’s difficult because part of her “game” is to get you involved emotionally in the fight she is starting. But if you can stay above it, remain firm, respond rationally, and then demonstrate that you aren’t angry about the exchange (One trick I use is to immediately switch gears and start playing happily with one of our kids)then she is allowed to question whether her anger is justified. Since you aren’t angry (you didn’t take the bait) you are sending a strong signal that she is being silly.

I would be interested to hear from anyone with specific strategies to raise her self-esteem without triggering “the loser effect”.

Thanks C.R. for creating this blog. I think alot of guys could really benefit from discussing this stuff, but its not something that most guys are comfortable discussing with their friends. So the blog is the answer!

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