Strategic Streams of Arousal


We’ve mentioned this a few times without going into a lot of detail about why it’s important.

So let’s break it down just in case it’s not obvious.

If you’re able to look at things a little different, you’ll find this to be a very simple (and logical) concept that you can use to get women turned on in a unique way.

First of all, when a woman decides to be more appealing to you (i.e. dressing sexier, having a sexier attitude, having a sexier attitude, etc) then she has increased her sexual value.

Make sense?

Great.

What we’re going to take about is a little different even though the terminology is the same.

In this case (when we refer to the guy increasing her sexual value), the woman doesn’t have to do anything. It’s just a matter of the guy saying things to get her to feel and believe she’s sexier.

Do you see the difference?

Here’s the breakdown to make it really clear.

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The left column is based on what she does to get you to see her as more sexually appealing.

The right column is based on what you do to get her to see herself as more sexually appealing.

What we’re going to do is focus on ‘right column stuff’.

This is important because there are times when she may not feel attractive.

It could be temporary.

It could be long-term.

Maybe she has a low self-esteem (negative self-image).

Maybe (for the short-terms) she has been recently comparing herself to women she thinks is more attractive.

So even though you think she’s attractive/hot, she may have a low sexual value to herself.

And the reason why it’s necessary to increase a woman’s sexual value (how she sees herself) is because it has an impact her ability to crave sex. It doesn’t matter if she sees herself as not-so-sexy, average, or sexy, you can always increase her sexual value by some degree.

Here’s another interesting story… well at least I think it’s kinda interesting. 🙂

In another report I mentioned the time when I ran into a female college friend. She ended up telling me that she’s now a nympho. She now loves sex and she can’t get enough. On the surface, it didn’t really catch my attention.

Sometimes women say this to get a reaction out of you.

…or maybe they’re interested in letting you know that the door is now open.

I just kind of played it cool. Then she kept talking about how at one time, sex wasn’t a big deal and that she didn’t really need it.

Now that caught my attention!

She was basically using the same words that many wives/girlfriends tell their male partners.

So at that point, I wanted to know what changed in terms of her:

1. Rules
2. Perspective
3. Intentions

Long story short: She ended up saying a bunch of stuff that could be summed up as she made shifts in her sexual value.

In other words, she now saw herself as sexier.

That’s also interesting. Especially when many women are capable of getting ‘horny’ just by putting on some lingerie and feeling sexy.
Doing the math, if a woman like this put on ‘sexy lingerie a lot’ ===> that would lead to ==> Being horny a lot.

The female friend was in a way (via a shift her mindset) had put on some “mental lingerie”…

Of course, she didn’t use those words.

Plus, her perception of sex and her beliefs about what sex was all about changed.

We’re talking several shifts.

Hearing that really caught my attention!!!

(And yes, it was officially worthy of 3 exclamation marks.)

… you see, it was because of personal experiences + I had read in several places (motivational/success books/etc) about people making changes in their SELF PERCEPTION and how it positively impacted how they behaved.

They improved certain aspects of their lives as a result of making positive shifts in their self-image (and/or beliefs about what they’re capable of).

And this college friend had just given me the sexual/nympho version of this. It gets better… and by the way, depending on what other reports you own, you may have noticed a few “Seduction techniques” are (when you really analyze them) are all about getting the woman to increase her sexual value.

That’s the reason!

Moving on… instead of referring to it as increasing her sexual value we could refer to it as increasing her sexual identity.

And basically, the more you increase her sexual identity, the more she’ll enjoy sex – the more she’ll see sex from the perspective of it being fun/valuable/exciting – the more she’ll see herself as a sexual success + other stuff + other stuff…

Sometimes (and it all depends on the woman combined with the approach that you use), you can end up transforming her ‘sexual identity’ in a matter of days/weeks. In other cases, it may take weeks/months.

Let’s now get to the good stuff!

You see, once you have increased her sexual identity, it becomes much easier to get her sexually aroused.

But why?

Well first of all, people make decisions (and form urges) based on (1) perception of effort + (2) pain/pleasure + (3) risk/reward + (4) other factors.

And here’s the analogy that shows how a woman will be much easier to get turned on once you have increase her sexual identity. Once you understand this, you’ll never look at getting her turned on the same way.

Let’s look at three scenarios.

Scenario #1: A woman is willing to walk outside of her house and across the street (2 minutes worth of effort) to receive $70.

Scenario #2: She’s not willing to walk 100 miles to Location XYZ for $70.

Scenario #3: She’s willing to walk 100 miles to Location XYZ for $70,000.

As you can see, she’s making her decisions based on EFFORT & REWARD/PLEASURE.

We could have also mentioned a 4th scenario.

Scenario #4: She’s not willing to walk 100 miles to Location XYZ for a 50% chance at $70,000.

This supports what we said earlier: People make decisions (and form urges) based on (1) perception of effort + (2) pain/pleasure + (3) risk/reward + (4) other factors.

In other words, if she’s informed that walking 100 miles to go to XYZ Place will allow her to receive $70,000, then she would be up for it.
As we can see, if the VALUE of X is really high, she’s willing to Perform A Lot of Effort to get X.

And with Scenario #2: If the VALUE of X is low + The effort is high, she’s not going to be interested in doing what it takes to get X.

That’s the REAL CORE reason why a woman ‘says no’ to sex (described in terms of value & effort)? It doesn’t matter if she had fun in the sack two nights ago.

You see, it’s simple.

If the effort involved (i.e. to make sex happen and/or to perform sex) is higher than the CURRENT VALUE of sex, then she won’t desire sex (at that moment in time).

Knowing this is a game changer!

And it’s not that she doesn’t like sex. In some cases, it’s not about the guy.

It’s just that you’re asking her to go 100 miles for only $70.

However, we’re not done breaking it down.

There’s some other juicy stuff that goes along with this that will make you more effective!

In a matter of speaking, let’s say that right now, from the perspective of your target woman, having sex with you = $70.

That’s your baseline value ($70).

You may want it to be $500 or $1000.

But it’s $70.
However, the effort-value-equivalent = $100.

Huh?

Effort-value-equivalent = The amount of walking she has to do to get the $$$.

In a weird way, when you say to her:

‘Sweetie. Do you want to fool around right now and let Mr. Happy play?’ you end up achieving two things:

Thing #1: You just initiating sex in the corniest way imaginable. And I’m a little ashamed of you by the way. Mr. Happy? Seriously?

Thing #2: (And this is the serious part) You just basically asked her to spend $100 to get $70 back.

(And keep in mind, women love bargains!)

So when she’s says, ‘No Honey. I’m not up for it tonight’, it actually makes sense.

Think about this…

Why does building sexual tension actually work (described in terms of value & effort)?

Well, think of it like this.

If Sex = $70 & the effort to ask for it = $100 ….then basically, building sexual tension can be seen as increasing the value of sex so that it goes from $70 to more that $100.
You want to turn the $70 into $110 or $200 or $700.

That way you’re asking her to exchange $70 to get back $700.

All women would take that bargain.

Phase 2: How do you turn $70 into $210?

To do this we have to start with the CR Decision Formula.

People make decisions based on (1) perception of effort + (2) pain/pleasure + (3) risk/reward + (4) other factors.

If Sex = $70, it’s often because of one pleasure stream.

Case #1
Pleasure Stream #1: It physically feels good to her (that’s worth $70)
Total Value of Sex = $70
Effort = $100

In this scenario, you’re asking her to give up $100 for $70.

If you build sexual tension, you’re actually increasing the value of sex because now it represents a tension release.

So now there are two streams.

Case #2
Pleasure Stream #1: It physically feels good to her (that’s worth $70)
Pleasure Stream #2: It represents a release in tension (that’s also worth $70)
Total Value of Sex = $140
Effort = $100

And if the Effort Value = $100, she’s going to want to do it, because you’re basically asking her to give up $100 for $140 (That translates to her wanting sex.)

I hope it makes sense.

And as a result of building tension, you have increased her urge/desire to have sex.

But we’re not done.

Let’s get to the magical third layer!

When you build sexual tension + you’ve effectively increased her sexual identity, this is what happens:

Case #3
Pleasure Stream #1: It physically feels good to her (that’s worth $70)
Pleasure Stream #2: It represents a release in tension (that’s also worth $70)
Pleasure Stream #3: It emotionally feels good to her (that’s also worth $70)
Total Value of Sex = $210
Effort = $100

When husbands aren’t too skilled at initiating sex, it’s often because they do it in a way that makes her feel cheap or like an object.

For example, the guy may say something like, “Hey are you going to give me some?”

For certain women, it makes it seem as that she’s an object. It’s not framed in a way that makes her feel special, desired, beautiful, etc.

However, if he were to say something along the lines of. “I missed you blah blah blah I’ve been thinking about you. How about we [so some sort of intimate act]”

It could end up being framed as an “intimate experience” where making is part of the process. In this case, she feels sexy and/or loved and/or valued.

Depending on how you treat her and interact with her (i.e. listening, valuing her opinion, having a good time together) + how you initiate sex, determines if you’ll end up adding Pleasure Stream #3.

On top of that how successful/skilled you are at building sexual tension determines how valuable Pleasure Stream #2 will be + The emotions that you attach to sex, determines how valuable Pleasure Stream #3.

Let’s look at the next case.

Case #4
Pleasure Stream #1A: It physically feels good to her (that’s worth $70)
Pleasure Stream #1B: You do something new/different/better + it physically feels good to her (that’s worth $70)
Pleasure Stream #2A: You do a type of sexual tension tactic (that’s also worth $70)
Pleasure Stream #2B: You add another layer of sexual tension (that’s also worth $70)
Pleasure Stream #2C: You add another layer of sexual tension (that’s also worth $70)
Pleasure Stream #3A: You make her feel loved during sex (that’s also worth $70)
Pleasure Stream #3B: You make her feel like a sexual success (i.e. complimenting her about how amazing she was the other night) (that’s also worth $70)
Total Value of Sex = $490
Effort = $100

Let’s look at the next case.

You hire a babysitter + You create an environment that is ideal for sex + You initiate sex during a time when she has peak energy

Case #5
Pleasure Stream #1: It physically feels good to her (that’s worth $70)

Total Value of Sex = $70
Effort = $100 $25

Now, you’re asking her to give up $25 to get $70 back

Do you see how you can keep adding ‘new pleasure streams’ and thus (in a secret backdoor way) increase the value of sex?

When you increase her sexual value + increase the sex value, you can end up really making her crave it like crazy! Why?

Because (1) you can keep adding pleasure streams + (2) you can keep increasing the value of each stream + (3) you can find ways to reduce the effort

In Case #4, we had 7 pleasure streams @ $70 a piece = $490.

(And by the way, this is how they really should have taught math in school. lol)

Now imagine being a little bit more effective at each stream at an increase of 25%. The pleasure streams are now valued at $87.50 a piece = $612.50

Does that make sense?

The next time a woman tells you no for sex, don’t get upset.

Instead it makes more sense to describe it in terms of pleasure streams.

Pleasure Stream #1: What was the estimated value of your past sexual experiences with her ($____)
Pleasure Stream #2: What was the estimated value of your sexual tension building? ($____)
Pleasure Stream #3: What was the estimated value of the emotions that you attach/link to sex? ($____)
Total Value of Sex = ($_____)
What is the Effort = ($_____)

In other words, you can ALWAYS do things to make sex more physically pleasurable to her (stream #1).

You can ALWAYS be more effective at building sexual tension (stream #2). You can ALWAYS be more effective at boosting her sexual value and/or adding emotions to sex (stream #3)

Now let’s get to PHASE 3!

We’re done with the math. Let’s get to the psychology (and how the brain works).

In order for a guy to increase the value of sex (via an increase in her sexual value) all he has to do is say the right comments.

It’s kind of amazing that all comes back to ‘saying words’ to her.

And the comment could be as simple as:

The guy: The other night you really blew me away, Sweetie! I don’t know if you’ve been reading any new sex books, but you really are an amazing love-maker. And by the way, when you started to blah blah blah, it felt so good my vision got blurry! And then blah blah blah blah blah blah

You get the point.

If you know your woman (and you have the Super Mindset where you care about her experience), then you’ll know HER KEY BUTTONS.

Some women love getting credit for everything. Some just enjoy being appreciated and acknowledged.

Who knows if the above example compliment would work on every woman?

But it’s a simple example that’s purely designed to make her smile/blush/giggle and feel like a sexual success.

It’s one thing for her to have sex and it feels physically pleasurable [$70]. It’s another thing for the sex to provide physical pleasure + emotional pleasure (i.e. the ego-boost of her feeling proud of being able to please you like no other women) [$140]

So does one simple compliment create this sort of effect? Answer: Sometimes. It depends on how well the compliment is crafted + how well it is linked to her ‘formula of desired perceptions’ + the intensity of her emotional reaction (which is based on some factors that are out of your control).

In most cases, when you’re building her sexual value, it operates the same way as when you build your sexual value – where it requires an ongoing campaign of the right signals.

Right Signals + Right Signals + Right Signals + Right Signals = The Right Impression Is Formed

That’s how it works.

Until next time.

Warmest Regards,

CR James

 



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