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Welcome to the blog.

The best way to use this site is to first understand the “CR James” basic philosophy which is:

In order to have better success with a woman (i.e. wife, gf, new woman, ex-lover, etc.), focus on two “high impact factors”:

1. Increasing Sexual Value
2. Increase Sexual Tension

Let’s define both.

Increasing Sexual Value

Increasing Sexual Value refers to doing/saying things that make her perceive you as more attractive.

We often refer to a sexual value tactic as anything that you do/say that increases your sexual value.

It could literally be anything, such as:

Having strategic conversations.
Behaving a certain way.
Reacting to her a certain way.

It doesn’t matter.

In fact, if snapping your fingers makes her more attracted to you, then — by definition — it is a successful sexual value tactic.

Is sexual value important?

Yes. It’s critically important.

Why is sexual value important?

It’s simple. The more sexual value you have, the more “impact leverage” you have.

A good example would be a woman who looks like an ugly witch compared to a super attractive woman.

Ugly Witch

Super Attractive Woman


If the super attractive woman danced seductively, talked dirty and then kissed you softly on your neck and chest, you would get extremely turned on.

If the ugly witch danced seductively, talked dirty and then kissed you softly on your neck and chest, you wouldn’t get turned on.

That’s because the super attractive woman has a very high sexual value score, while the ugly witch has a very low sexual value score.

When it comes to women, your sexual value score isn’t just based on physical appearance. It’s based on the impact you have with your words and actions.

Much of a man’s sexual value score is based on words and actions.

It’s the reason why a handsome man could have a low sexual value score (just like the witch), while a below-average-looking guy could have an extremely high sexual value score (like the attractive woman).

Rule #1: Sexual value is a most to have impact on a woman.

In other words, it wouldn’t matter if the ugly witch read a book called, “10 Ways To Dance Seductively” or “101 Sexy Phrases That Will Turn Him On”…

She won’t be effective at turning the guy on, UNTIL she improves her sexual value.

With that said:

A nice guy can increase his sexual value.
A mean guy can increase his sexual value.
A neutral guy can increase his sexual value.

Once again: Increasing your sexual value happens as a result of what you say and what you do.

You can increase your sexual value in two ways:

Way #1. By making “physical improvements” (i.e. getting in shape, dressing better, being more groomed).

Way #2. Via “psychological concepts” which will normally have a higher impact than “physical” methods.

Some men (in an effort to increase sexual value) will focus 100% of his effort on physical improvements.

Not smart.

There was a time when “just a guy’s looks” mattered, but that was we were 8 or 9 years old.

Here’s the breakdown.

Male’s attractiveness in Elementary School: His looks (the girls liked the cute boy)
Male’s attractiveness in Middle School: His looks + popularity (mental factors are now important)
Male’s attractiveness in High School and beyond: His looks + personality + confidence + other psychological factors.

Do you remember the year when you first realized that an “ugly guy” could attract beautiful women?

For me, it was in high school.

I saw many real-life examples.

I also had two ex-girlfriends (who never knew each other) tell me about how they were sexually attracted to a particular “ugly guy”.

One of the best examples was in college. I had a short chubby friend (who I mentioned in several reports). He wasn’t ugly. He just wasn’t a guy who expect to have “hot girls” going crazy over him.

It could see if it was just one, but it was several. And that’s why he’s one of the best examples.

Here’s the point…

When most guys start to get rejected by women (in some way….either a husband who’s getting rejected for sex everyday from his wife…or a single guy not getting second dates…or whatever), there is a tendency for the guy to focus on “increasing sexual value” via “physical improvements” (i.e. getting in shape, better wardrobe, better grooming).

That’s not a bad plan, because at least he’s doing something.

However, making non-physical SV improvements have waaaaaaay more impact!

I’ve done it.
I’ve witnessed it.

Some experts will go as far as saying that if a “super ugly guy” does things the right way, he can have any woman on earth.

Not true.

Experts say this to inspire confidence, but it’s not true.

The reality is we live on an amazing planet. The birds sing beautiful songs in the morning. The stars twinkle at night. And humans have preferences.

For some women (let’s say 10%), looks are very important. The guy has to be a model.
For some women (let’s say 80%), looks are somewhat of a factor. The guy has to be at least “ok” + have the right personality + right traits.
For some women (let’s say 10%), looks don’t matter at all. The guy could be ugly, but he needs to have the right impact.

With all of that in mind, let’s move on the next factor.

Increasing Sexual Tension

Increasing Sexual Tension refers to doing things and saying things that make her desire you sexually.

A guy could be super handsome + have sexual value, but that doesn’t mean he understands how to get a woman turned on.

For example, I met a girl at an old job who was very attractive, but I would score her a “D” in the ‘getting me turned on’ department.

A guy could look like a male stripper with lots of confidence – to the point where the woman rates him with a Sexual Value Score of 97/100. But if he kisses her in an awkward way and does other things wrong, he will have a Sexual Tension Score of 14/100… meaning, he won’t be able to get her “horny” and “wet”.

With all of that in mind, the intention of this page is to clearly show the difference between sexual value and sexual tension.

As you read the blog posts and free reports, you’ll notice that some focus on sexual value (SV), some focus on sexual tension (ST), while others talk about something else.

Enjoy!

I hope you find the tips and advice useful!

Warmest Regards,
CR James
crjames100@gmail.com

P.S. If you’re considering buying one of my paid reports, I would highly advise you FIRST get a copy Super Seduction Power (even though I market the book for guys in relationships), it doubles as a “mother ship” report. All of my reports feed off of that one report. It’s basically two reports in one.

The first half of the book is a Master Course on Sexual Value.
The second half of the book is a Master Course on Sexual Tension.

It’s the only report that I’ve updated over 10 times (and continue to update). If you own a copy, feel free to request the most recent update.

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    Hey Mr. James,

    Thanks a lot for a month back. The super compliments work like a charm! The girl I had issues with is now all over me. We are closer than ever before, and she is doing so many nice things for me. It is unbelievable the nice things she does for me.

    Just yesterday, she drove down 1.5 hours from her home to come with me to a Broadway show. Best of yet, she paid for the tickets!!! Unbelievable!!! I don't know what to say. It happened.

    Those super compliments have also been handy with other women. I am in a class with a bunch of GORGEOUS women, and these women have taken a further interest in me. A lot of them are offering themselves up like candy.

    Super compliments with super seduction powers and lust buttons for the win!!!

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    Hi CR,

    thanks! I am doing amazingly well!

    In fact, I was just about to write to you a little note with a bit of feedback.

    The Secret Pattern brings everything to a new level. But not from 2 or 3 to 4.... IT is like going to level 7 or 8.

    I have started using it 7 days ago and although there are some other things going on I am sure it plays a big part.

    I have [done something] every day ( ????, ????, ????, ????...etc.) I had planned to increase the intensity for two hours but never managed to get to the end... and we ended up having long love making sessions every single night with increasing intensity.

    She tells me every night that she is getting addicted to it and how happy she is to have found her man....(her words)

    I don't even put much planning in it... The pattern is easy to repeat and then I just choose the ingredients for the night when i come home...

    So, 10 out of 10 for this one!!!!

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    Thanks James, Really appreciate the response and info.

    I’ve been reading the part of MFM and I find it so much along my line of thoughts and observations since I’ve been married these past 12 years. Like you I have been obsessive about how I can make my wife want me and desire me more often and I totally agree with the persona thing, health, and creating the right atmosphere, etc.

    It really works because I don’t believe I’ve ever been turned down unless she was on her period, had the flu, etc., she really is a great partner for me…

    I mean we have sex on an average of 1/day, seriously I not trying to brag, but maybe some couples have it more often…I don’t really know.

    It’s what I’ve watched and learned about her and it is true when these things are clicking she becomes more mentally in “the mood” to have sex.

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    YOU SIR… ARE A GENIUS.

    YOUR ABILITY TO PICK IT ALL APART THEN PUT IT BACK TOGETHER SO IT CAN WORK FOR A MAN IS UNMATCHED.

    I’VE GAINED SO MUCH INSIGHT INTO THE FEMALE MIND SINCE DOWNLOADING YOUR MATERIAL, I’M ALMOST OVERWHELMED.

    I’VE TRIED JUST A BIT HERE AND THERE IN THE LAST FEW DAYS AND THE RESULTS ARE INCREDIBLE!

    ICAN’T WAIT UNTIL IT BECOMES AUTOMATIC, LIKE ANYTHING YOU PRACTICE AT, YOU’LL JUST GET BETTER AND BETTER.

    I READ THE REPORTS ON MY LUNCH HOUR, AND AGAIN WHEN I GET HOME, IWANT IT TO SINK IN BUT GOOD AND SATURATE MY BEING WITH IT, BECAUSE IF JUST A LITTLE CAN DO SO MUCH, THEN HAVING “IT” ALL THE TIME, HAS TO BE BETTER.

    DAMN, JUST THE INSIGHTS I’VE GAINED ALONE ON THE WAY A FEMALE COMMUNICATES HAS MADE AWORLD OF DIFFERENCE. I’VE BEEN LOOKING FOR INFORMATION LIKE THIS ALL MY LIFE,

    WHAT YOU HAVE HERE IS A TRUE TREASURE OF KNOWLEDGE,

    IT’S WHAT EVERY YOUNG MANWISHES HE HAD BEEN TOLD BY HIS DAD AND MORE.

    THIS IS TRULY CHANGING MY LIFE EVEN AS I WRITE THIS,

    I COULD NEVER THANK YOU ENOUGH. AS YOU CAN SEE, I’M ONE HAPPY CUSTOMER.

    GOD, I WISH I KNEW THIS STUFF YEARS AGO.

    THANK YOU SO MUCH, YOUR THE REAL DEAL, A REAL, TRUE GENIUS

    SINCERELY, RON

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    I am a Mensa and my wife was a systems analyst before she retired.

    I am spending my energies on trying to see and hear what is real.

    This is what I have gotten in the first 26 pages. I am really getting to the point of all this great recommendation. Or perhaps I should just tell you the problem I have been having in my life – because I firmly believe that if I can completely solve just one thing and understand it fully I will understand everything. (otherwise nothing is connected and this is impossible). …

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    I love being better equipped to figuring out what’s going on in a woman’s head (things even she doesn’t know are going on) and watching (sometimes with frightening predictability) the responses to what I’m doing or saying… press this button, does this; press that button, does that… mmm wonder what happens if I press em both at once… ;) If you’ve got any other material out since I purchased SSP, def interested – I’m sending a mate or two, and both my brothers, your way too.

    Dunno whether you’ve considered translating any of it, but my old man does freelance translating into both french and spanish!

    Seriously, the world needs this.

    but you knew this already…

    Anyway, if you want an endorsement for your page or whatever, all I could say is this…

    Is your wife/girlfriend, or more importantly, *your* life, worth more than 40 bucks?

    If not hit the little cross in the corner of your browser :)

    thanks again
    Cool Bruce ******

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    Hi CR,

    Just wanted to say thanks for all the reports you send, I really enjoy your writings and your sense of humor in presenting them.

    I have purchased most of your books online Thanks for your time, B.M.

    Greenville SC

    PS I did practice some of your techniques and saw alot of success with them,also had a lot of fun with them.

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    “WOW! Your material is excellent.

    I have bought a lot of seduction books because being by nature an introvert I realized that my interpersonal skills were a weakness that could keep me from achieving my goals. Anyway, the mind state theory you have is CRAZY. I [do a secret technique] and when I go out I can feel women drawn tome, INSANE.

    I tried an experiment yesterday with mind state when I went out for breakfast. The cute waitress kept her hand on my shoulder the entire time she was around my table. I have two questions. [removed]

    R.P.

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    CR James

    Thank you for your material!

    Your techniques have already given me amazing progress!

    I actually have had two different girls (an 8 and a 9) come up to me and say there was something different they liked about me but didn't know what it was. If I wasn't using your material to try and save my marriage I would be out dating hot babes right now instead of emailing you.

    Thank you for being one of the few guys out there that help men find the knowledge they really need to build a happy balanced relationship.

    Your material more than pays for itself in the first day.

    My self confidence has sky rocketed 200%!!!

    You’re a life saver,

    Jason
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    Thank you very much!!! Now, on to driving my wife crazy with orgasms… oh, by the way – a little philosophy of mine…

    She’s 47, hot, but her libido has dropped in the last 2 years. I’m doing things to attract her sexually and emotionally – [by doing all of the things mentioned in Super Seduction Power] I lovingly look out for her interests continually, but sometimes let her be independent and ‘do things on her own’. We do fun and adventurous things, and travel some, too.

    It’s true – women want [a man to be a Certain Way]

    I have found that it’s so important for a man to be older and more experienced in everything – including sex, and to do things right from the beginning – for the respect, love, kindness, fun, and sex in the relationship. The saying…“Women are like carpet, and need to be laid right the first time”. Has some truth to it.

    Whether he knows it or not, the man sets the tone for how the woman responds to him, how much she will respect and admire him, value him, and for how well she responds to him sexually. Wives must literally be ‘broke in right’, and taught how to respond to a loving caring, manly, and sexual man. A woman who learns to trust him – because he is trustworthy; and give herself completely and happily to him sexually because he knows how to attract, seduce, and sexually drive her wild is a very blest little honey with a very wise man.

    That’s the path I’m on. She is pretty well trained. I love my wife, and want to totally screw her brains out – with her enjoying every bit of it. The goal of every husband – or it should be!

    Thanks for your kindness and great customer service!

    M

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    Hi CR

    If you are interested to know, things have moved so fast!

    I am absolutely hooked on your stuff.Am about a quarter of the way thru your main [Super Seduction Power] book and have been applying a few things.

    She said there was nothing in the report she would fall for but after that she became freakin’ ravenous!

    -During dinner asked me what my biggest sexual fantasy was and when I told her she said yes she would enjoy it

    - Proceeded to tell me she would do anything other than anal but wanted to be tied up and taken

    - After dinner she dragged me into the bedroom and gave me a blow job (first one since, sheesh, I can’t remember when!)

    - We then went to the mall for a while, on the way there she tells me we should hire some XXX DVDs from the video shop and watch them at the weekend (this after going ape-shit once after finding an old porn mag I had stashed under a bookcase!)

    - Got home and she shoves me down on the coach - another blow job

    - Then disappears into the bedroom and comes back with a draw full of sex toys (that we hadn’t used since I can’t remember when)

    - Jumps on top of me and rides herself silly

    - Races off to the bedroom again and comes back with a pair of red high-heeled shoes. She puts these on as then that makes her the perfect height for her to bend herself over the arm of coach while I then have my way with her!

    Lets say I’m now looking forward to the weekend.


    Regards
    Michael

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    Dear Mr. James,

    I just have to write and tell you something.

    You have changed my life.

    Let me explain. I am a good looking, physically fit, successful, 37 year old man. I have no trouble meeting women.

    But after 11 years of friendship I came to realize that I could never settle down with any woman because I would always compare them to my best friend.

    She is a beautiful, successful woman, who I have a strong connection to. For years our friends wondered out loud how come we didn't date...I was at the end of my rope but after some hesitation I bought your materials.

    Thank you thank you thank you, Mr. James.

    We are now exclusively dating each other and we both are very happy. And, I just bought your new reports...and we just had the best sex ever!

    She came on to me so hard, it was so out of her character. But I just followed your techniques and they worked like a charm.

    It is amazing how I do the things you suggest wondering "is this really going to work" then I get the results just as you say.

    So glad I found you and had the balls to purchase. If all those guys looking for miss right at these on line dating services would just spend 1 month enrollment fee on your books, they would never have to waste a dime on those dating sites.

    Good for you Mr. James.

    But better for us. Thanks Again. I look forward to your new books. You better e-mail me any time you write something new.


    Matt
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    Hi CR,

    First off, thank you very much for replying to me. You must be a pretty busy guy, and getting this kind of support from you is amazing.

    I have purchased a couple of your products, and I like them. I particularly like the way you break down your ideas conceptually, rather than the ‘this technique’ and ‘that technique’ approach that is so common.

    I’ve read over what you have written a couple of times, with a day or two between readings to take the time to ponder it a bit.

    Truthfully, you make more sense to me than any other counselor I’ve been to.

    I’ve also tended to read a lot of relationship stuff in the past couple of years in an attempt to be a better partner myself, and those I consider to be the best pretty much echo what you say, though none say it so humanly or so precisely (and frankly, none of them are as interesting, either!)

    Sincerely,
    D. F.

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    Hey CR James It's Richardo from Jamaica its been a long time since I emailed you.

    I really love your reports dude and I think your a fucking master mind at hacking chicks brains.

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    Hey CR

    I finally got my girl back. I used those techniques on her...

    The next time I saw her she admitted she couldn't stop thinking about me, even while she was on holiday.

    Im gonna re-read all your reports now, also, can you give any extra tips, so I dont lose her again?

    I honestly cannot thank you enough, you are a genius!

    If anyone has any doubts about your work, they need their head testing!!!!

    THANK YOU SO MUCH!

    WD

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